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My questions

Biology is very much involved regarding finding love. No doubt about it. I actually don´t like to talk about it, because the magic about love disappears, but there are many studies showing the neurobiology (chemistry) underlying love. Several transmitter systems in the brain such as dopaminergic and serotonergic systems are clearly involved both in short term and long term emotions-commitments.

Life is not fair, and will never be, because that is nature. Woman definitely has her biological clock, whereas men don´t feel the same emotional pressure since he can become father til very late in life. Life is unfair, don’t you agree? And men are, undoubtly, aware about this fact.

Love is also something very personal and individual, and should be allowed to be so. Nature cannot be forced. I am very happy that I have dared to take my first steps to find my soulmate. And I talked about questions to be asked. I will continue to think about this, and fill in with more questions during the week.

 

What sports do you like?

What three female characteristics (personality traits) are you attracted to?

What makes you laugh?

Do you prefer dogs or cats, and can you explain why?

For how long have you been single, and how have you spent your time being single?

Are you faithful?

Time for relations

To be private but not too personal is so difficult since I don´t know who reads this! Ok, I just have to accept that I should write what I think of. I am rather open, and I hope I can continue to stay that way. But to share my private life, and my thoughts about true love, is difficult because that is so private.

It was a few years ago I went for date. Now I have started to go for dates again since I don´t wan´t to stay single for my whole life. Relations are difficult and sometimes scary. I feel like I am Bambi on ice. Thin ice. However, the change in climate helps. It is summer now, and the warmth is so nice. Makes me relax.

It takes time to build a relation. My challenge is that I think of the relations I have had before and it is so easy to fall back into that role. My life is different now, and I have to start from now and future instead of looking back. I follow my gut feeling a lot. Finding someone to like should not be a job interview. But, I will soon find some questions that I need answers for. In a way, it is good, because I learn something new about myself. With life experience comes different ways to see and interpret life from various angles.

I definitely know one thing. It has to be a man who like sports since I like exercise so much. It is important to have some common interests, I think. Will write more later.

 

Charm

Things happen in my life. I have more actively started to search for my soul mate. Such a challenge. This has lead me to ask myself what I really care for. I will continue later to write about this difficult, daring subject. And be more specific. However, one important character has emerged, namely, charm. Laughter.

Charm is very important, to smile, to laugh. That prolongs life, it is said. I think. It makes you feel good. My love life has been zero during several years. I think I have needed this time to reflect. So, soon I will continue to write about the most difficult topic in life.

Tea

Today was, for me, the very first real feeling of warmer days. I just say finally. I don´t know how many times I have thought “is it really worth spending so many months (years)  in cold and darkness?”. But it has its charm. Those day when I put my skis on and go with my sweeties are invaluable. The joy of watching my sweetie having fun in the snow is giving so much happiness.

The days are turning to new days so rapidly. I use quite a lot of my time for exercise. I just love that. That makes me smile. More or less I have been active with sports during my whole life, and I wish it will stay so. I would like to learn how to play tennis one day. That is something I would like to try. I have tried a lot but not tennis.

I have written now and then about my stay in Sri Lanka. This week I have thought about why I don´t write in Swedish, and that is simply because I have friends speaking foreign languages and we communicate by English to stay in touch. When I went to Sri Lanka that was to see Anu and her husband. She reads what I write and we only speak English. Anu introduced me to Sri Lanka and I am very happy about that. I was very content to go to the highlands where the tea plantations are. I am really fascinated by tea.

Tea is beautiful. Where it grows. How it is harvested and taken care of. Every morning I still have Sri Lankan tea, so that keeps my memory fresh. I just wish I had that tropical landscape outside my window.

After seeing beautiful Lion Rock, I went to Kandy. And, from there I continued to Nuwara Eliya where the tea plantations were. I went by bus and I was the only foreigner. Nuwara Eliya was so beautiful and was established by the British in the 19th century. The temperatur was perfect and the air was so fresh. I visited many tea plantations and learnt “From bush to cup in 24 hours”.

The craving of writing

I am so happy I can write here, it has actually become a part of my life. Right now, life moves on in a rather ordinary way. Work, exercise, writing… And most of all, I am waiting for winter to really give up. There was actually snow today. I didn´t believe my eyes. But soon, hopefully, spring and summer will occur.

I focus quite a lot on training. Wish I could do more. I always try to feel “how do I feel today” and then adjust to that, because it should be fun! So, now I am a little tired after a lot of training tonight, but it was great fun. Makes me smile.